Talking about how people have sex
At this age children will be curious about adult relationships. They will hear older children and adults having conversations or see references to sex across different media. Children will also be talking amongst themselves, and you may want to make sure that they learn what sex is from you.
The text here offers support for your chats about what sex is. The text that follows frames sex as something that is for adults and done in a loving relationship. You may want to also discuss sex alongside what you believe about relationships or marriage.
Sex is something that adults can do when they love and care for each other. Sometimes people talk about ‘making love’.
When a couple want to have sex, they will go to a private place like their bedroom.
They will kiss and cuddle and touch each other’s bodies. They will touch the private parts of each other’s bodies.When the couple are two men, we say they are gay.
When a couple are two women, we say they are gay or lesbian.
If the couple is a man and a woman, we say they are heterosexual or straight.Sex should feel nice. Adults learn what they like and don’t like.
When a man feels like he wants to have sex with his partner his penis will get hard, this is called an erection.
When a woman feels like having sex with her partner her vulva and vagina might feel tingly and wet or slippery to touch.
If a man and a woman are having sex, and they both want to do it, the man can put his penis inside a woman’s vagina and gently move his penis in and out. This should feel nice for both people.
When people have sex, they might have an orgasm. For a woman an orgasm is a pleasurable feeling in her body. For a man, if he has an orgasm (called ejaculation) a white liquid called semen will come out of his hard penis. He will enjoy this feeling.
Books
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Usborne Facts of Life Growing Up: All about adolescence, body changes and sex
R. Ge and S. Meredith
ISBN 0746031424
Text describes exactly what takes place in the body at the time of puberty. It contains sections on sex and contraception, food, exercise, hygiene and drugs and other problems both physical and emotional.
Let’s Talk about Sex: Growing up, Changing Bodies, Sex and Sexual Health
Robie H. Harris
ISBN 074453674X
This book gives the facts – biological and psychological – of sex, including sections on the body, families and babies, and sexual health.
It’s Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, growing up, Sex and Sexual Health
Robie H. Harris and Miachael Emberley
ISBN 1536207217
A book on sex, sexuality, bodies, and puberty.
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